ARE YOUR CHILD’S GRADES MORE IMPORTANT THAN THEIR MENTAL HEALTH?
As we all know, mental health has been getting worse in the UK for over a decade now, and non more so than in children.
The scariest part of this is that more often than not, its primary and secondary school children who are being diagnosed.
So why is mental health in children, often as young as 7, on the increase?
One major reason is an out of date education system that focuses on grades rather than the child’s emotional wellbeing.
Since the introduction of OFSTED inspections, children have been placed under enormous pressure to perform.
And the fact that children as young as 6 are given SATS tests to assess their performance just beggars belief.
My youngest son is 6 and he brings home more homework every week than my eldest who is in secondary school.
Is it any wonder then that children as young as 6 are being diagnosed with depression.
Traditional schooling has virtually gone out the window.
Teachers are now constantly running around in an attempt to complete the ever expanding national curriculum, while at the same time trying to maintain high standards and grades for the OFSTED inspectors.
Is it any wonder then that teachers are also being diagnosed with mental health problems, or in some cases, taking time off for stress related issues.
Gone are the days when children were taught life skills such as character, respect, values, and relationships, to name but a few.
This isn’t the teachers fault necessarily.They just don’t have the time anymore to teach these vital skills to their class.
So how can you tell if your child is perhaps suffering from stress at school?
Here are a few examples for you to consider.
Have you ever noticed that your child seems more reserved than before, but you don’t know why?
They’ll probably tell you that ‘Its nothing’, when you ask them.
Perhaps you’ve noticed your child having difficulty focusing on their work or task.
There’s probably too much going on in their minds for them to concentrate and think clearly.
Maybe you’ve noticed that your child seems to be constantly and quickly, losing their temper. Often on issues that didn’t bother them before.
Or perhaps you’ve noticed them becoming emotional and sometimes tearful for no apparent reason.
Look out for these signs, and just be there to listen, and be sympathetic.
Please do not tell them to ‘Grow up’ or ‘Get over it’. That could make matters worse.
Just listen to them patiently. If they ask your opinion, give it to them. But otherwise, just listen.
So are your child’s grades more important than their mental health?
Here’s a little something more for you to consider before you decide.
If children are stressed now at such a young age, and if they continue to grow up stressed, they will inevitably, become even more stressed by the time they reach adulthood and start employment.
At work it’s probably no better. They are now stressed out about the workload, the boss, or even the ‘not so nice’ co-workers.
As adults then, they may as a result, suffer from depression or some other serious mental health issues.
Which in most cases will simply be medicated by their doctor. Not exactly the doctors fault here. They just don’t have enough time to sit down with their patients and talk through their problems.
Mental health in the UK is bad enough as it is. If nothing major is done soon, This generation is going to add to the UK’s mental health epidemic in a huge way.
As I’m sure you’ll agree, mental health in the UK is slowly going from bad to worse.
An end-note for you to think about.
Some of the most successful people in the world were not very clever academically, yet they went on to become great achievers.
I’m not saying academic education is bad. But your child’s mental health is much more important, don’t you think?